By Joshua Howard
When using the law of attraction,
you're likely going to encounter naysayers and people who try to put you down
or pull you back to your old ways. And this sucks: there really is no nice way
to put it. No matter what "game" you play or how much fun you have or
good you do, there are always going to be "haters". This article
addresses this issue and offers a few things to consider that will help you to lessen
this problem in your life.
The first way you can ignore the
negativity of others is to just stop interacting with them. The majority of
people will slide away if you stop making much of an effort.
But keep in mind that not everyone
is negative or will react negatively to your changes-or maybe their reaction is
temporary or related to something else. Or it may be the case that some of the
people you love the most are the most negative. And you're going to at least on
occasion happen upon people that are mean or rude. So, you need to be careful
not to wholesale write people out of your life. Remember, you're trying to
level out your life to improve it, not to live in a fantasy utopia.
That being said, some people may
need to be completely removed from your life; however, think of the
ramifications. For instance, if you really like a certain sub shop, but all of
the people who work there are so rude to you that the experience is no longer
enjoyable, then maybe you shouldn't eat there anymore and find a new favorite
sandwich spot. But if the most negative people in your life are your spouse,
parents, children, friends, coworkers, etc. completely removing them is very
difficult. But if you decide to go this route, then as much as possible try to
do it in a peaceful way leaving an opening for the future because you'll likely
have to deal with them again. In other words, most of the time, wholesale
writing people off is a mistake, so here are some other strategies.
Appreciate the other person for
their accomplishments and their life, but distance them from you and yours. For
instance, one of my closest friend's mother is very cruel and loves to sow
discontent in his life-particularly, his love life-so, he no longer allows her
access to this part of his life. So much so, that he decided to only introduce
girls to his mother if they're already engaged. In this same way, if you have a
coworker that always berates you about things you bring up, stop bringing those
things up. At first, it may feel irritating to have such a one-sided
conversation, but it'll make your day a lot nicer...
But this strategy isn't the best
long-term solution. For that, you'll want to actually get over the thoughts of
others. There are some interesting philosophies that offer people suggestions
on how to do this like stoicism, Pyrrhonianism, existentialism, etc.; however,
all that matters is you begin to stop letting others affect you.
A basic idea in all of these
strategies is to begin to focus on what's under your control and let go of
things outside of your control. After all, if you worry solely about things you
can affect, and then you're in a much better position to accurately think about
your life and to do something productive about it. They all also focus on the
ways that how you act is not only an example for others of how to act, but
speaks volumes about the type of person you are (in fact, looking at a person's
actions is the only way to see who a person really is for all these
traditions).
But luckily, the law of attraction
has many of these elements in it-and avoids things like the abandonment of god
because if the law is true on a cosmic level, then god has never abandoned us.
And one of the most notorious teachers of law of
attraction-Abraham-Hicks-offers a great solution to this problem, the mantra
"I love you so much, I don't care what you think." This mantra is
amazing because it allows you to negate the comment of the other person without
needing to lower them in your eyes.
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Joshua Howard is life coach who
specializes in law of attraction, NLP, and DHE.
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