By Joshua Howard
It's not very difficult to attract
a man. What's hard is to attract the right man (or more realistically: one of
the few, but still highly limited, people that are right for you). Rightly so,
the next question to ask is "how do you do that?" So, in this
article, we'll cover just that: how do you attract a man that's right for you?
So, the place to begin is with when
trying to learn how to attract a man is attraction itself. What is attraction?
In this context, attraction is about evoking interest in another. Or more
specifically, the right other.
But there's a deeper level to
attraction. And this is something alchemists talk a lot about "affinities".
This is a spontaneous or natural liking of one thing to another. We have many
little idioms for this: "misery loves company", "two peas in a
pod", "like flies on feces"... etc. The point being here is that
"attraction" really sits on this idea of affinities: you want the
right person to be attracted to you because you both have a mutual liking for
each other.
That being said, how do you do
this? There are a few ways to go about this process, but after studying many
ways to find love, I found them to all be essentially saying the same thing:
get your mind state such that you're in the right "place" to meet the
right people for you (even sleazy people like Ross Jefferies push this idea:
right mind state, right results).
For instance, if you are lonely and
just want someone to be with and you don't really care who, it's not that hard
to attract a man--most of the time, available women have men talking to them
(again, men they don't want). But this mind state itself will very likely repel
people whom you would like to be with unless you want someone with similarly
low standards. (And I don't say this to be mean, I say it with love because I
did over and over again until I finally said no more!)
To take this a bit further, just
imagine if you were to go out feeling lonely and somewhat desperate: does that
make you more or less inclined to talk to a really handsome man? (Or to try to
draw him to you... ). If you're like most people, this state you're in causes
you to seek someone lesser than what they really want in personality,
lifestyle, looks, whatever your criteria is.
So, how do you do something
different? How do you attract a man you'll really like? Well, like all else in
life, you use the law of attraction to draw better things to you. Focus on what
you want in a man. Then, imagine being with that man. Consider all of the
mental, emotional, and action based things that stop you from being able to be
comfortable thinking about or going after men like that. Overcome those things,
then take inspired action toward your goals. But it's really about the first
step: decide you want something better and don't let yourself settle for
anything less...
Would you like to learn more about
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Joshua Howard is life coach who
specializes in law of attraction, NLP, and DHE.
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